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What I Learned from My Horrific Brand Experience

Because I’ve been in the blogging industry for well over than a decade years now (since 2004), I’ve worked with a number of brands over the years, partnering to deliver empowering messages to the people I care about – YOU!

Brand executives and representatives reach out to bloggers and digital influencers to amplify their ad campaigns because most audiences are tired of traditional advertising or need more. Often times, audiences tune out, are skeptical, and indifferent.

Influencer marketing has a high return on investment (ROI) because our content is rooted in personal stories that resonate with our followers – they can relate to it and they trust it.

3 vital lessons for brands working with influencers

But there’s a right way and a wrong way to work with digital influencers, and I recently had the worst experience working with a brand that shall remain nameless.

The brand representative contacted me and pitched me their idea for a sponsored post. They introduced me to their brand and I was intrigued, so I did a lot of research. I scoured the website, I called the 800 number, and read the reviews. I will only participate in campaigns that I believe in and endorse offerings I feel are a great fit for you.

I accepted the offer and went to town writing my story. I got chills, I ugly-cried, I resisted editing myself… you know, I pour my heart when I talk to you. I want you to get the most authentic account of what I experienced, what I believe, and where I am on the journey.

I sent in my draft. Sometimes the brand will request the influencer to send in the post for approval prior to publication. They usually find a couple typos or want you to use an alternate word here and there, for clarity and alignment.

There are also some claims that you are not able to make when dealing with a particular brand, that may feel true you, but that would cause liability. Of course, most brands are incredibly proactive and provide a comprehensive list of guardrails and guidelines in advance.

I sat on the computer, sipping my hot herbal tea, while I checked my e-mails, prioritizing, because I get so many. The draft was back, so it would be productive to open it up, make a few changes, and schedule it for posting.

My heart sank. There was my story, bleeding with red strikethrough on my voice, on a white Microsoft Word document where only paraphrased key points remained. No comment, no explanation, no recommendations. 

It was like that time the doctor cut my side open without anesthesia in order to insert a second chest tube right below where they had already stitched me a few days earlier while I was in a coma. Only that time, my sister was holding my hand.

I felt silenced. Invalidated. Restrained. And I struggled with sharing that out loud, because that type of invalidation was the same type that drove me to silence myself for many years.

It’s not that big a deal

You’re overreacting

Don’t be such a drama queen

I’m sure they didn’t mean it that way

It doesn’t hurt that much

But I was brave. I owned my emotions and I decided to speak up. Invalidation was NOT on the contract and selling my soul was not worth the price.

Writing the message was hard, but it felt empowering to defend my voice, my story, my core values, and my style. I explained it would not be authentic for me to publish an ad on my blog. “I only publish authentic pieces that come from my heart,” I said, and I couldn’t believe I hit “send” after that because I felt fear in the pit of my stomach. I am proud of myself.

You know I can sound really passionate and enthusiastic about the products and services I share with you…because I genuinely am. And sure, after researching this particular offering, I was sure excited about it, although I didn’t have a first hand experience with it directly, I had a close connection with the concept that my story described.

And if I’m really honest, after feeling all those feelings, the offering wasn’t so shiny anymore. I did ask whether we could find a way to work on an authentic piece together; maybe there was an angle that could satisfy both my need to share motivation and their goal to spread the word.

We both eventually decided that it wouldn’t make sense to move forward and I was relieved. 

The part of me that wanted to “follow the rules,” “fulfill the contract,” and “honor the commitment,” was beating me up, but the part of me that said “it’s your blog, and you’ve built it with love, sweat, and tears, for 12 years, so it’s your right to decide what to publish and not to publish,” won, and listening to that voice leads me to inner peace and happiness. There are two sides of our nature and we can choose which one we nurture.

With this experience, I felt like I understood Ariel’s feelings when she gets back her voice in The Little Mermaid. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t feel the brand is Ursula-evil. It wasn’t a good fit and it was liberating to move on.

As influencers, we give brands access to our audience. That’s sacred to me! When I partner with a brand, they must get that. I come with my own set of key points and boundaries, because I have my own brand to build.

The first lesson I can share is that brands must go beyond looking for traffic and social reach, and actually match the content to the creator. In order to do that, they must get familiar with an influencer’s content, especially that which relates to brands, as well as how it relates to the campaign theme.

I am passionate about motherhood and I talk to moms. I am a storyteller and my blog is my space to share stories that encourage, inspire, and empower moms. And that will happen whether there’s #ad or #sponsored or not.

When the brand claimed they “respect my content, but the differences in approach are too significant,” I realized our partnership was always destined for doom, because they didn’t take time to get to know me, and weren’t at all familiar with my approach before they contacted me to pitch their campaign. Attending conferences is a great strategy to create connections with brand reps, because they get to know you well.

Even though vetting the influencer is a responsibility that falls on the contracting party, I have learned to be more proactive in making sure they have indeed gone through this step before signing agreements.

The second lesson to be learned is that brands must trust the influencer’s judgment, because the creator will know what will be impactful to their audience, what will move them to action, and what will keep them engaged. 

Giving the influencer creative control, within the brand guidelines, helps the influencer create powerful content with the fresh perspective and a transparent, trusted voice that helped him/her build the engaged and target following they have access to.

Some of the ways brands benefit from partnering with influencers are: building brand awareness, driving traffic to the brand’s website or campaign landing page, boosting SEO, increasing social following, generating sales, promoting engagement, content distribution and amplification, and valuable feedback from the audience.

The power of working with social influencers is real. I read that 84% of consumers make a purchase after they read about a product or service on a blog post, so value your work and own your worth, sister! 

The third lesson to take away is to strive for alignment. Though I did love the actual offering I was contracted to review, the love went away when I learned our values weren’t in alignment, though their vision and mission statement may have indicated they were.

Working with brands is a way to gain monetary rewards, have fun experiences, network, products, and more. But what really drives my content is YOU… With every piece of content I write, I go back to WHY I started.

In Matthew 6:33 in the New Testament, I learned: “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you,” and I know that when I am focused on what God called me to do, everything else just falls into place.

As I reflected on this horrific brand experience, I got real with myself to make sure this wasn’t just a “boo hoo, they didn’t like my story,” situation, where I wanted to feel sorry for myself. I’m not a fan of that mentality because it leads nowhere.

Had they said “Elayna, thank you for writing this story, could you tell a different one, instead, and this is why this one doesn’t work for us,” it would have been a professional and reasonable request, and all those yucky emotions would have not flourished.

I am a firm believer that “rejection is redirection,” and I think I need to coin that. LOL. This was a great learning experience for me and an opportunity to reclaim my power as a writer, storyteller, and friend to you.

What are your thoughts on what I learned from my horrific brand experience? If you’re an influencer, what are your boundaries? If you are new to influencer marketing, what questions do you have? Share with us below, luv!

[ela]

Elyssa Fernandez

Saturday 31st of August 2019

I remember this vividly. It was a horrifying moment when you showed me the endless, red strike-throughs on your beautiful story. It really impressed upon me the importance of making every detail crystal clear with the people you're working with, and making sure your values align.

Rebecca Bryant

Sunday 25th of August 2019

Great advice up until no wi would have turned me inside out to be what the brand wanted. I am learning my story and my value smatter as does my voice. This has taught me I do not need to change who I am to work with a brand but rather I need to be the truth and honest about who I am.

Elisha Fernández

Saturday 24th of August 2019

I remember when this happened. It was very hurtful and I am so glad you stepped up and said NO. Even when we feel “brand struck” (like star struck but with companies lol) we need to stand our ground and not accept bad treatment.

Patty

Saturday 24th of August 2019

Elayna: While I haven't had this experience yet, this is an awesome story to illustrate the power of your voice, and how I want to proceed if this comes up with me.

I also know that everything falls into place when God has called me to it. I just to remember it!

Elayna Fernandez ~ The Positive MOM

Saturday 24th of August 2019

Patty, with 15 years in the industry and having partnered with over 300 brands, I think I could write a book just about my experiences.

Christine G

Friday 23rd of August 2019

I've haven't had this experience yet, but I wonder how many bloggers would have had the courage to stay true to their voice as you did. It's important to stay true to ourselves and not the coin.