The Best 31 Bible Verses To Keep Positive After A Hard Breakup

Before I share how the list of Bible verses that got me through the painful experience of ending a past relationship, I want to say I’m sad that you’re going through the same difficult situation.

Whether we are ending a friendship, a marriage, or a business partnership, the end of a relationship hurts regardless of why it happened, and even if it’s a mutual decision. Mourning our lost relationship will send us through the darkest valley, but gladly, you’re turning to the God of all grace.

I think when the reason for the breakup is betrayal, the devastation in your heart can be traumatic.

The initial shock of how I’ve been deceived, betrayed, and mistreated has been slowly wearing off, but the heartache remains and my wounds are wide open.

I am doing all I can to stay positive during this trial and I want to share some Bible verses about breaking up from the King James Version (KJV) that have guided me through this new journey I’m slowly stumbling through.

The Word of God has the power to heal our hearts, whether it’s been broken through romantic relationships or any other type of heartache.

The Best 31 Bible Verses To Keep Positive After A Hard Breakup

Even though I appreciate my family members and other important people in my life telling me I’m strong and I will be okay, the pain just doesn’t stop.

I want to believe them, and maybe part of me does believe them, but it is when I read the Scriptures and lean on God’s word that I find encouragement I can cling to calm the emotional storm inside of me.

If you’re going through a horrible breakup, a divorce, or any other affliction, I invite you to read and repeat the following scripture verses to comfort your broken heart and strengthen you during these troubled times, even if you aren’t religious.

Psalm 18:30 ~ Protection

As for God, his way is perfect: the word of the Lord is tried: he is a buckler to all those that trust in him.

Protection comes through trusting that, even when it hurts, the breakup is right for you. My motto: rejection is protection; rejection is redirection.

Our Heavenly Father is a loving God. If you believe this, then remind yourself that God’s plan is to bless you, prosper you, give you a future, and grant the desires of your heart.

So right now, declare that there is a better plan that you’re just not aware of. He’s guiding us to the right path, the safe path to true love – the kind of love worthy of a godly woman and a godly man.

Romans 12:19 ~ Letting go

Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.

Letting go of any desire for revenge, to get even, or to see the other person suffer will help us heal and move forward from the misery that comes with a breakup.

You’re justified in wanting justice and what you’ve been through is not fair. However, as you rely on God’s promise, He will allow you to feel His rest in these tough times. He’s the God of hope and can help the righteous anger dissipate.

Mark 5:34 ~ Wholeness

And he said unto her, Daughter, thy faith hath made thee whole; go in peace and be whole of thy plague. 

I know in my heart that I am whole without my ex, but it requires a lot of faith to fully embrace a new season without the one you thought was your other half.

There is no emptiness that the love of God cannot cover. His perfect love can make you whole. As you call on Him, He can be your best friend – He already is.

I pray this prayer out loud all the time to make it through difficult times: “Make me whole, Father.” I invite you to do the same.

Isaiah 43:2 ~ Safety

When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee. 

We may not be spared from this hardship, and the pain may not go away, but reminding yourself that God is with you can restore the sense of safety you lost in the betrayal.

The pain is real and it’s also purifying. It can be both at the same time.

Give yourself permission to heal on your own timeline, but do make sure you are not doing it alone. Inviting the Holy Spirit in this hard time will turn a horrible experience into a spiritual journey. You can help God work it for your good.

Psalm 46:10 ~ Serenity

Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.

Praying, meditating, and connecting with our inner wisdom can help us find God in this emotional mess we’re in.

Serenity is defined as “the state of being calm, peaceful, and untroubled.” This sounds like a tall order when we’re living tough days, but nothing is impossible for our God.

Pray: “I don’t like it. I don’t know how I’ll act calmly, but you can help me, Lord. Help me trust that this is the best thing for me and help me manage my emotions, Father.”

Joshua 1:9 ~ Companionship

Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.

The grief and suffering of being betrayed by someone you loved and trusted is compounded by how lonely you feel in this time of mourning.

I am afraid. You are afraid. We are afraid.

This is true – and understandable. We’ve received so much pain in our search for good things: love, support, family, and partnership.

And this is also true:

You are not alone. I am not alone. We are not alone.

Even when someone leaves, and even if everyone leaves, He is there – and He loves you.

Psalm 147:3 ~ Healing

He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.

Sometimes it’s really hard to believe that I will recover from this sorrow, but God is faithful to keep His promises and I know it will happen in perfect timing.

Healing is not a linear journey. The pain comes and goes and it is triggered by the littlest memories that can take you down a dark spiral.

Sometimes we compare and think that it’s easier for others to heal, but everyone heals in their own way. This is a hard thing you’re going through. Validate yourself and take your time, trusting that God will be there each time the pain comes up.

John 16:33 ~ Overcoming

These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world. 

It’s normal to feel weak and defeated but relying on who He is, rather than in who I am, helps me stay positive and have hope amidst adversity.

Have you ever said “This is too much,” “I’m done,” or “I can’t do this anymore”?

It just feels like too heavy of a burden and that’s because it is. He’s offered to be yoked with us, but we have to make that decision. I encourage you to cast all your cares to Him… or at least as many as you can right now.

1 Peter 5:7 ~ Release

Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. 

As humans, it’s hard to release control, so we worry, intervene, and try to fix things. Just like the disciples cast their heavy fishing nets to the vast ocean, when we cast our troubles to God, we are blessed.

Matthew 5:4 ~ Comfort

Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.

In all honesty, it doesn’t feel very blessed to go from anger to anguish, to anxiety, but you will gradually start to see the light even in your darkest hour.

The mourning will never feel fun, but knowing that God is the Source of all comfort is truly a blessing when the mourning does happen.

Romans 8:28 ~ Purpose

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. 

As a Student of Pain, I’ve found that our suffering is part of our calling. It was something I learned when I was declared dead and visited the afterlife in my “near-death experience.”

As we embrace this truth, the lessons will unfold and bring meaning and purpose to what feels like an unnecessary and unfair burden.

Psalm 34:19 ~ Deliverance

Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the Lord delivereth him out of them all. 

As we draw near to God, He will rescue us from the depths of our personal hell. I gotta add that this won’t happen by magic and as we put in consistent effort, the situation won’t necessarily change, but our perspective will.

For the first time, I am starting to understand that it was the toxic relationship what He delivered me of, and to see more clearly why. Are you able to see that too?

Isaiah 41:10 ~ Strength

Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness. 

This breakup has been so distressing, demoralizing, and depressing that I thought I wouldn’t be able to survive it, that I wasn’t going to be able to handle it. I am…

No matter how unbearable the pain may seem right now, I know you will be endowed with strength so you can conquer and triumph over it.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 ~ Love

Charity suffereth long, and is kind ; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly , seeketh not her own , is not easily provoked , thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity , but rejoiceth in the truth ; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth : but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away. 

Breakups are sometimes a reminder that we look for love in the wrong places. This breakup is giving me the sacred opportunity to feel God’s love for me and to practice intense self-love in the forms of self-compassion, self-care, and self-acceptance. Remember that not everything you lose is a loss and that as we release the old, the new can come in.

1 Thessalonians 5:18 ~ Gratitude

In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. 

Because there’s opposition in everything, there is always at least something positive that comes out of something we perceive as negative.

When your heart is aching it can take a long time to dig deep to find it, but I guarantee you it’s there. I’m not asking you to write things that you are not yet grateful for just to talk yourself into something that your heart knows is not true.

I’m saying look for genuine gratitude – maybe for the people who are supporting you, maybe for the little things in which you see God’s hand working, maybe simply because you are breathing on your own right now. As you give thanks, you will find more and more to be grateful for.

Deuteronomy 31:6 ~ Aid

Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the Lord thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.

The #1 fear we experience after breakup or divorce is the frantic fear of being alone. When you’re dealing with this sense of emptiness, you may try what I do now: I tell myself it’s even more terrifying to stay with someone that makes you feel alone.

Faith can dissipate your uncertainty and summon the Heavenly Help you need. He will not fail us. This is why this breakup is happening in the first place, because you are precious and He wants better for you.

1 Samuel 1:10 ~ Permission

And she was in bitterness of soul, and prayed unto the Lord, and wept sore. 

As recorded in the Bible, it is natural to go through a wide range of emotions during a painful situation, and it’s the same for a breakup, especially if betrayal is the culprit.

Give yourself permission to cry, mourn, and fully feel and express all the grief, sorrow, rage, and any and all emotions you may be feeling – it is a powerful way to heal.

Remember the shortest verse in the Bible: “Jesus wept.”

Psalm 27:14 ~ Patience

Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord. 

Waiting takes courage, especially when you don’t know how long you’ll have to wait. However, trusting in God means also trusting in His timing and in His way of delivering on His promise.

The best way to have patience? Outsource it. 🙂 God can bestow all these gifts through the Spirit. Ask and ye shall receive.

Psalm 30:5 ~ Joy

For his anger endureth but a moment; in his favour is life: weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.

One of the great advantages of crying and allowing your humanity to show is that you also welcome the emotions you desire, like joy! It is possible to feel joy even during a breakup and all the setbacks of today are preparing you for the comeback you’ve been praying for.

And also give yourself permission to feel joy if or when it shows up. You deserve it. And don’t forget to give thanks to God for each of these little mercies and little moments.

Philippians 4:13 ~ Power

I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

I always say “BE Positive and You’ll BE Powerful” and positivity comes from faith. As you focus on that which you pray for and have faith it is possible, you will have the power to co-create it in your life. All things are possible for you through Him.

His Supernatural Power comes to you also in the way of Divine Helpers – both in Heaven and Earth, so don’t be afraid to receive help from those who offer it with love and care.

Matthew 11:28 ~ Rest

Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest .

Rest is a precious commodity and breakups cause us to lose sleep, but we can feel a sense of rest as we pray and trust that we are not alone in this traumatic ordeal.

I have spent many sleepless nights and these verses have allowed me to sleep at night and feel emotional rest during the day. I can feel their power to slowly but surely help restore me, both in an emotional and physical way.

John 14:27 ~ Peace

Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. 

Someone asked me how I can smile – or even function – with all the pain and emotional energy I’m processing these days. When you partake of the Lord’s peace, you will feel the assurance that everything will certainly work out.

God’s peace surpasses understanding because it helps us feel peace for events, experiences, and situations that we would have never thought we’d be at peace with. It could be that someone hurt us or that we hurt someone, and even irreversible and seemingly unforgivable acts.

But the peace of God is available to all His children, whether they believe in Him or not, no matter what they’ve been through or what they’ve done. This is such a joyful truth that we must remember when going through this painful separation.

Psalm 55:22 ~ Support

Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved. 

One of the hurtful byproducts of breakup or divorce is the disappointment that comes from someone whose support you want to either step out or take “your ex’s side.”

For me, personally, the letdown has been how some people in my life seem to value my marriage more than they value my happiness, even at Church.

Others have acted in invalidating ways because fail to see or understand the wreckage in my soul.

As these things happen, know that when no one seems to be on your side, the Lord is – no matter what. He sees how hard you tried and keep trying. He sees your heart. He knows the pain in your heart and He can sustain you when no one else will.

Isaiah 40:31 ~ Vigor

But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. 

It’s normal to want to just stay and bed, do nothing, and see no one. It’s a byproduct of feeling depressed and defeated. And it’s okay to do it some days because your body is carrying extra trauma.

I am on a journey to take better care of my body and love it back during this transition. The toxicity in a relationship and along the breakup process can drain you and debilitate you, but you can slowly regain energy and confidence to move forward.

Proverbs 3:5-6 ~ Direction

Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 

In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Doubt reigns during a time of breakup or divorce. Trusting with all our hearts can seem a daunting task when it seems our ability to trust is as broken as our hearts. But trust we must!

Direction and discernment are priceless gifts during this time of contention and confusion because it could be so easy to make a choice we could regret.

Give yourself time to trust others, but trust in the Lord now… today. His steadfast love is an unfailing love and as we Hear Him, we will make the right choices and choose the right people when the time comes.

Psalm 46:1 ~ Help

God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. 

God’s help will show up in little and grandiose ways, and many will recognize His Hand in hindsight, but you can train yourself to see the little miracles now.

He is manifesting in your life each day, and how He is actively making things easier for you.

He is helping me survive. He is helping me function. He is helping me take little steps toward a better life. He’s helping you, too.

Revelations 21:4 ~ Restoration

And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away. 

Some days it’s harder to imagine that I’ll be over this heartache and brokenness, but I remind myself of my favorite Bible story in which everything that Job lost was restored tenfold, including his joy.

Hold on to the hope of that promise and create a vision of what life will look like when restoration comes, as unbelievable as it may be right now. I created a vision board, I’ve written it in my journal, and I’m trusting God to do it His way because His ways are always Higher and better.

Psalm 9:9 ~ Refuge

The Lord also will be a refuge for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble. 

The trauma of betrayal can make it seem as if we are trapped or stuck and there’s nowhere to go, but prayer can become our shelter when we feel no one is safe enough for us.

He knows we were oppressed and He understands why we feel troubled. He doesn’t expect us to go out and act like nothing happened or to just trust everyone else right away. He wants us to spend more time with Him so that we can fill ourselves with the assurance that only He can provide.

John 8:32 ~ Freedom

And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. 

Some truths are so gut-wrenching that we almost wish we didn’t find out. It is no wonder why denial is one of the steps of grief. However, even those hard truths are essential to healing because they provide safety, connection, and freedom. It is only through truth that intimacy can flourish and that trust can be rebuilt.

This breakup is providing the gifts of truth, enlightenment, and awareness at the highest level I’ve experienced and though it is beating me up, it is also liberating me in a massive way, and I am grateful for that.

Luke 6:27-28 ~ Forgiveness

But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, 

Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you.

I have written about how I still love my ex and I will always love my ex. It is possible to love someone without allowing them to hurt you or condoning their betrayal. Forgiveness is a process that requires love for self and compassion for the other.

Forgiveness can be a long process, so don’t rush yourself if you’re not there yet. Maybe we can strive to do a loving or forgiving thing each day to get us closer to our goal.

Giving up the hope of a better past is the sure way to have a better present and build a better future.

Proverbs 3:15-16 ~ Worth

She is more precious than rubies: and all the things thou canst desire are not to be compared unto her. 

God wants us to know that we are His Precious Children. We are divine. We are loved.

One of the most shameful practices during a breakup caused by betrayal or a divorce caused by infidelity is the compulsion to compare ourselves with the affair partner or whoever is the object of our ex’s lust and desire.

When we have been disrespected and mistreated, we are almost blinded to our worth and value. I have to remind myself each day, several times a day, that it is how God sees me that matters and to declare myself beautiful, valuable, and worthy of love, respect, and care.

You are too – even when you forget it.

Healing from Betrayal

Breaking up can be a heart-wrenching experience, filled with anger, hurt, fear, loneliness, struggle, and despair.

When I feel like it’s the end of the world, I keep affirming the truths in these Bible verses to lift my spirits, give me hope, and help me see the positive side of this ugly pain I’m feeling.

I know these verses will work for you. Read them out loud. Record them on your electronic devices. Play them over and over, just like I did, especially when thoughts of hopelessness and defeat come to your mind.

Even though it may feel that no one can possibly understand the pain you’re going through, Jesus Christ does, and He can provide the healing, peace, and, yes, even joy, that you truly deserve. Hang in there, my love!

The Breakup Recovery Journal

If you would like to put these verses to use in your life, you can go deeper by using The Breakup Recovery Journal. It’s a guide for those who are seeking peace, healing, and hope as they navigate a painful breakup or divorce.

This faith-based breakup workbook contains 31 Bible verses and daily devotions, and over 150 journal prompts and evidence-based healing activities to help you process your pain and feel whole after heartbreak.

Through inspiration, introspection, and spiritual insight, this guided breakup journal will be your companion as you grieve the loss of your romantic relationship, establish a new relationship with yourself, and deepen your relationship with God.

This breakup recovery manual is informed by modern research in neuroscience, personal development, and positive psychology, and will allow God to hold your broken heart as you tap into your divine inner strength and His Supernatural comfort.

With extra writing and journaling space, The Breakup Recovery Journal is designed to be a safe experience. By doing this work for 15 minutes a day for 31 days, you can survive through the end of a relationship, transcend the trauma, and create a joyful life on your own.

And that’s what God wants for you – and what you deserve!

Which Scripture verse speaks most to you? Share your own favorite Bible verse about breaking up, suffering, and betrayal in the comment area below!

Founder of the Positive MOM® and creator of the S.T.O.R.Y. System: a blueprint to craft and share powerful stories that will transform your results and help others do the same. Dr. Elayna Fernández is a single mom of 4, an award-winning Storyteller, Story Strategist, and Student of Pain. She’s a bestselling author, internationally acclaimed keynote speaker, and 5x TEDx speaker. She has spoken at the United Nations, received the President’s Volunteer Lifetime Achievement Award, and was selected as one of the Top Impactful Leaders and a Woman of Influence by SUCCESS Magazine. Connect with Elayna at thepositivemom.com/ef and follow @thepositivemom. To receive a gift from Elayna, click HERE.

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