For some reason, in today’s day and age women are not encouraged to be BFFs: breast friends forever – as a matter of fact, we have a battle of the breasts going on!
First and foremost, I’ll pick a side: I love breastfeeding! It was indeed a magical experience that came really naturally to me, and it is probably the number one activity I am looking forward to when my new baby girl comes to the world.
It didn’t hurt at all, it felt like my body was made to do it, and besides choosing the best source of nutrition for my babies, it was the time we bonded most intimately.
Because Elisha and Elyssa are so close in age, I actually nursed both at the same time for a few months. It was such a joy!
In August, many moms celebrate “breastfeeding month”… although in some instances, I must confess it feels a bit too uncomfortable to join the celebration.
I recently saw an image of a woman who celebrated by immodestly feeding her baby in front of an exhibiting table for a formula brand as “protest to women who choose to not breastfeed.”
Respect goes a long way and the obvious truth is that every woman carries their “set” on their own chest. Breastfeeding is a personal choice.
I think many breastfeeding fanatics also fail to acknowledge the gray areas. Some moms are willing to breastfeed and have planned – and even dreamed – about it, yet engorgement, poor milk supply, or latching issues got the best of them.
For such women, breastfeeding can be (and has often been) challenging to say the least, and while some are blessed to have the support of a loving partner or a lactation consultant, others can only choose between suffering painfully and stopping altogether. I refuse to ignore these truths just because it’s been effortless for me!
I promote many mommy practices, such as natural birth and breastfeeding for at least a year… in fact, you would be amazed at my very demanding and specific unique birth plan! Because I appreciate when my choices are respected, I assume others feel the same way about theirs.
C’mon ladies, let’s be Breast Friends! Let’s acknowledge that what works for one woman doesn’t necessarily work for another. What comes easy for someone, it may require hard work for someone else. No matter where we may stand on these issues, let’s refrain from judging, protesting, and disempowering each other. Let’s decide to support each other through empowering messages, positive education, and understanding based on realistic expectations, instead.
Happy Breastfeeding Month positive moms!
Founder of the Positive MOM® and creator of the S.T.O.R.Y. System: a blueprint to craft and share powerful stories that will transform your results and help others do the same. Dr. Elayna Fernández is a single mom of 4, an award-winning Storyteller, Story Strategist, and Student of Pain. She’s a bestselling author, internationally acclaimed keynote speaker, and 5x TEDx speaker. She has spoken at the United Nations, received the President’s Volunteer Lifetime Achievement Award, and was selected as one of the Top Impactful Leaders and a Woman of Influence by SUCCESS Magazine. Connect with Elayna at thepositivemom.com/ef and follow @thepositivemom. To receive a gift from Elayna, click HERE.
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Friday 27th of March 2020
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Cococute
Monday 12th of May 2014
I know it is my bad but I am sorry I am not able to breastfeed and you know why - he he - but reading this post and the comments of mothers here make me think of asking about my Mom on what is her experience on breastfeeding us - all 7 children.
MomofTwo
Sunday 11th of May 2014
I had a very good experience breastfeeding and am very thankful for that.
Karen Dawkins
Sunday 11th of May 2014
The best parenting gift I ever got came from a friend who had successfully breast fed all her kids for 12 months or more. I was struggling with it, tearful most of the time. She said, it's not the breast feeding that makes you a mom. It's your love. If this isn't working for you, he will still grow up healthy and strong." A full-time breast-feeding mom gave me unconditional love and permission to quit. It was the best gift ever.
Leelo R
Sunday 11th of May 2014
I did not have that good experience with breasfeedng so...... yeah....