Late last week, after our morning scripture study, I was discussing “the sickness of popularity” with my daughters. That’s what I call the “need” to be popular, to gain validation, or to fit into a group or category.
Although I know that, according to Maslow, a “sense of belonging” is a major human need in his pyramid, I have never really belonged anywhere, and I have been just fine with that.
So many people back out or give up on a dream, or compromise their core desires just to fit in somewhere, or because they constantly worry about what others might think. I find that very sad because I deeply believe we were all designed with unique gifts and have a divine right (and duty!) to shine our light and live our purpose.
I have found that being different, being who you are, and following your passions unapologetically sure comes with lots of judgment, unsolicited commentary, and assumptions. I often laugh at these hilarious facts:
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No one really cares about my protein intake until they find out I’m vegan!
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No one really cares about my children’s socialization skills until they find out I homeschool!
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No one really cares about my children’s child play until they know they’re kidprepreneurs!
Truth is, the girls were the ones who wanted to attend and they were beyond excited for the opportunity to do so. People can judge, assume, and scoff…but at the end of the day, only YOUR results matter.
When Making a Choice,
Use These 3 Simple Ways To Live Your Purpose:
- Remember What Matters To You ~ you don’t have to be what others are, do what others do, or have what others have! You choose your own standards and priorities.
- Get Rid Of The COU Syndrome ~ People are busy with their own lives…Most of the time, they don’t even notice you. [COU = center of the universe LOL]
- Judgment Can Only Hurt If You Let It ~ You definitely cannot control what people think or say, but you can control whether you let them hurt you or not. Their thoughts – good, bad or indifferent – are their own.
I’m a weird vegan homeschooling mom of kidpreneurs with unusual beliefs and a silly playful attitude. I love the choices I have made. No one has imposed them on me. They are a result of who I am and who I am becoming. They work for me and for my family. They make me proud because they remind me I am aware, awake, and conscious. I know I say this a lot but here it is again: RESULTS Don’t Lie!
Remember what Bill Cosby once said: “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.”
[ela]
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Ave
Saturday 10th of May 2014
I really like Bill's quote, it's so true! The first point you make about remembering what matters to me is sometimes difficult for me. There are situations where going with the flow seems easier, but not always.
krystal
Friday 9th of May 2014
great post, it is important to know your goals and figure out your purpose!
Nancy Sustersic
Friday 9th of May 2014
As we seek to find out what Matters Most or is important to others, that is when I feel our most exciting inner beauty flows out! Thanks for the wonderful words of wisdom again Elayna! Miss you and the family! Nanc and Joe