You Get In Life What You Believe You Deserve

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It feels good to be open to receive and be free to enjoy the good that happens to me. You know how much pain, struggle, and chaos we already have in our lives, so it is necessary to savor any joys we can as long as we are able.

Believing we deserve something is the foundation to receive it. ASK+BELIEVE+RECEIVE is a formula that has been given to us by every world philosophy and religion and the key is in the middle.

We ask (persistently, sometimes) and we want to receive, but unless we believe it can happen for us because we are deserving of it, it just cannot happen. The impostor syndrome kicks in and sabotages the flow:

• Who am I to have that?
• Who am I to do that?
• Who am I to BE that?

When you upgrade your sense of deserving, you will start not only manifesting what you want, but to keep it, too.

A good example about how your sense of deserving can affect you is when someone wins the lottery. According to multiple studies, about 70% of all lottery winners become broke and file for bankruptcy. In fact, 44% of lottery winners had spent all of their winnings within 5 years of winning the lottery!

I always say “You cannot outperform your self-image.” Or as Iyanla Vanzant put it:

Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.

Have you ever heard about The Golden Rule? You know, “treat others as you want to be treated”? There’s also The Platinum rule: “treat others the way they want to be treated“, which aligns with what we read in The 5 Love Languages.

Well here’s my rule, which I’ll call The Titanium Rule: “treat yourself the way you want to be treated.“

There was a particular mom that attempted to have an argument with me about this rule because she believed it invites pride and entitlement (what I call self-importance). Ironically, arguing to change another’s mind comes from ego, but loving yourself is commandment – treating everyone with love is a commandment.

As a Certified Success Principles Trainer, one of the principles I cover in my workshops and seminars is called “Act As IF,” which teaches us that we don’t have to believe we deserve it the first time we do it. We do it enough until it sinks in and the belief and sense of deserving solidifies itself. Believing you deserve what you desire is a practice.

I know I will always hear from my pesky inner bully and I don’t really know that I can keep her from coming around, but I do know that I don’t have to believe those voices and that I can choose to act in defiance, in resistance, against that thought.

You’re probably familiar with the name Napoleon Hill, the author of Think and Grow Rich. He was assigned by Andrew Carnegie to spend 20 years writing this book and, in order to succeed, he was to carry out an assignment that Carnegie assured was the formula that would enable him to achieve that goal.

Napoleon Hill was to look at himself in front of the mirror, at least twice a day – once just before going to bed at night and once just after getting up – for 30 days, repeating this equestrian analogy:

Andrew Carnegie, I’m not only going to equal your achievements in life, but I’m going to challenge you at the post and pass you at the grandstand.

Napoleon Hill could not imagine being more successful than Andrew Carnegie, so he protested, in an effort to be “realistic.” Fortunately, he went through with this practice and eventually started to believe it, and did indeed become more successful than Andrew Carnegie in more than one way.

Believe you deserve to create a joyful life story. Believe you deserve all the blessings you’ve been praying for. Believe you are worthy of love, admiration, and service.

We are conditioned to believe that there is a list of requirements and tasks we need to check off before we are worthy (you know how I feel about lists – ugh!), but the truth is that we are born worthy.

We have a divine nature and the mere fact that you are breathing right now gives you permission to prosper – that is God’s plan for you, but your beliefs may be getting in the way.

You may wondering how you could embark on a journey of increased worthiness and it’s really simple: start focusing on it. What you focus on you feel, what you focus on comes to life, and what you focus on expands.

It doesn’t take a life-altering event, reading a transformational book, or being blinded by Jesus on the road to Damascus for you to start shedding your false beliefs. It just takes humility.

Interestingly enough, the more you understand how worthy you are, the more you understand why and what for, so you become more grateful, loving, and willing to serve others without an agenda.

When you upgrade your sense of deserving, you attract the things and, most importantly, the people and the freedom you desire in your life. 

How are you upgrading your sense of deserving and worthiness? Share in the comments below!