Embracing The F Word In Motherhood

Elayna cannot dwell in the presence of profanity. Yes, I said it in the third person! 🙂

Being around it just drains my energy and lots of recovery is needed.

Would you believe me if I told you I avoid profanity like the plague?

I do! I once quit a really good job I had just to not have to hear my then-boss curse at everyone he talked to.

Well, there’s a funny side to this… I have an accent.

When I first visited the United States it got me into trouble.

That was way before I became a teacher and workshop facilitator, but I’d still discuss self-development topics with my friends, and pretty much anyone with ears.

I would tell them about the power of FOCUS…or so I thought. Get it? Think about it! LOL

This F word is very significant to me…and yes, now I make a conscious effort to pronounce it correctly. 🙂

F.O.C.U.S. = Follow One Course Until Successful

We all have the desire to succeed. I am happy when I know the things I do with my kids make them happy or create a desired result. Success feels good. Success comes as a result of harnessing and implementing the power of focus.

For ages, I have studied high achievers and top performers. No matter what their industry or discipline, they all cook their success with the same recipe: they consistently follow a course and stay on it until they got what they came for.

I have to have a Star Wars marathon to watch the movies one of these days, but  T-Shirts are very educational in Jedi wisdom:

“Always remember, your focus determines your reality.”~ Episode I

No pressure, right?

Narrow Focus, Focused Attention, or Focused Concentration consists in mentally disciplining ourselves to complete a task, plan, or activity, giving it our all, our undivided attention. This is especially true for time with your spouse or your children.

No distractions!  

As a woman, it is sometimes hard to not take advantage of our multi-tasking skills. They just don’t serve us when we want to truly excel and be efficient and effective at achieving a result.

Focusing actually reduces stress and creates more time… BELIEVE IT!  As a matter of fact, applying this amazing principle, which is easily mastered by men because of its single-focused nature, will absolutely improve your business performance and quality of life.

Here are 3 tips that can help you keep the focus required to succeed at what you want:

1. Have pictures, music, or information around to remind you of your vision. Why is it important?
2. Block time out of your calendar to work on a specific activity or task (like reading to the kids.)
3. Tell a lot of people about it: call, share it on your FB sisterhood, tweet it, or post it on your blog. You will feel more accountable. I did that when I vowed to not complain for 30 days.

I am so passionate about this it may sound I’m marketing something. That’s part of the secret: there are two F words that complement FOCUS: Faith and Follow Through!

Do you know what you want?

How much do you want it?

Believe you can do it ~ Focus on it with all your might ~ Be persistent and consistent!

If you don’t get it, it wasn’t part of the big picture, but I guarantee the outcome will be magnificent.

Don’t Stop Til You Get Enough!!!

Founder of the Positive MOM® and creator of the S.T.O.R.Y. System: a blueprint to craft and share powerful stories that will transform your results and help others do the same. Dr. Elayna Fernández is a single mom of 4, an award-winning Storyteller, Story Strategist, and Student of Pain. She’s a bestselling author, internationally acclaimed keynote speaker, and 5x TEDx speaker. She has spoken at the United Nations, received the President’s Volunteer Lifetime Achievement Award, and was selected as one of the Top Impactful Leaders and a Woman of Influence by SUCCESS Magazine. Connect with Elayna at thepositivemom.com/ef and follow @thepositivemom. To receive a gift from Elayna, click HERE.

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